Having finished to travel in the south of our vast Motherland, we decided finally have a look at your friends who live near Krasnodar in very picturesque places. Oleg once wrote about This amazing Russian-Turkish family with five children. But when he met them, they still lived in Turkey, and since I’m not with him I went on that journey, then personally no one else from this family I knew, and I really wanted to talk with them, especially after his eloquent stories.
We were met by very hospitable and shrill cries of joy children, then with open arms came out and senior owners. we spent together about a week, and I plucked up my impressions, as if lived all this time in another world!
To begin with, what an amazing atmosphere prevails in this house. As long as we lived there, I tried in every way to solve, for how does this feeling come about? This is probably due to the fact that the family is very integral, there is a very strong bond between all its members. At the same time, outwardly, it is not to say something that is particularly manifest, felt at the same time. They had to go through a lot, and if if they didn’t hold each other that way, they wouldn’t have survived persecution in Turkmenistan, then 6 years in the wild conditions of Afghanistan without money and help, and then with very complex social circumstances in Turkey. How many horrific stories are we have heard a lot! And when you listen to this, HOW in other places they can live people, you start to think completely differently about your own life, about human values and needs. We have problems? Yes we in general, like cheese in butter we ride. Sobering up very much.
One of the inhabitants of this house
Regular breakfast, smoothly flowing in the afternoon for talking
The mistress of the house for cooking the next masterpiece
Therefore, now, returning to Russia (which, by the way, was also it is very difficult to do because of any bureaucratic delays), our friends are very happy, although here they were waiting for some the difficulties. That’s how it happens, someone’s share may fall “a rich uncle from America”, but life can teach someone and experience different difficulties for very long.
For this family you need to cook a lot
What the older daughter spoiled us almost every day
Rare things come to life here
Having lived in this family, we learned how difficult it is for people in Russian village, especially if you have five children. For some reason there are no grants on the occasion of large families, as well as benefits, for example, on public transport, because the city must still get from villages, and a bus plying between villages is considered long-distance, they do not give benefits to him, so pay for all children full cost, once you live in the village, not in the city. And at school for some reason there is no free food, although I also grew up in a large family, I remember, my brothers and I ate for free, and here – for some reason it is not supposed … But it goes without saying that at school All children do not have enough textbooks and most of them need parents buy by yourself. When you have one child, probably still tolerant, but when their four go to school? At the same time, the librarian has more such a trick – at the end of the school year to find fault and not to take tutorial, and force to buy a new one. Multiply by several textbooks, and now again for four children.
About how particularly “friendly” and “peace-loving” atmosphere in school, even do not want to tell. Every day, coming back home, kids told us new stories about how classmates mocked teacher, or someone from peers, or above the animals along the way. It is like a self of course now, so much aggression in children. And the guys from this families, on the contrary, tell their peers so naturally, that trees, mountains, the sun, the sky – everything is alive, everything must be loved. Incredible contrast!
Creative work is very fascinating
Creative work is very fascinating
And amid all the difficulties and difficulties of our friends remains incredible passion, optimism and faith that everything will be fine. They just live according to conscience and try to somehow positively quietly change the world around you We asked how are you with this all do you manage? The answer was this – after Afghanistan in Russia just paradise!
River Pshekha – local attraction
River Pshekha – local attraction
River Pshekha – local attraction
On the nearest river you can take real mud baths.
On the nearest river you can take real mud baths.
Father of the family likes to drink tea from a special Turkish samovar
When our friends just moved into the house where they are now live, it was half destroyed and half burned out. And for a few months, the whole family could not just restore everything and decorate, but also start a small household. Now behind the house Chickens live daily and feed the whole family with homemade eggs, and the crop ripening, albeit small, after all, the experience of farming our friends did not have, they tried everything themselves, but everything together.
Near the house in the yard
Yard and farm
This is probably one of the reasons why, in spite of everything complexity, they are all so great at it! Children fully participate in the life of the family and on an equal basis perform various work on home. They all together with their parents dug trenches to build on the site of water supply, then all together cultivated the beds, loosening, weeding, repairing the house together. And now by itself it goes without saying that a mother can ask one of the daughters to wash the dishes, and the other – to feed the chickens, and the boys, seeing that his father was engaged Wood, go help him.
There is always a lot of work on the site.
Oleg helps children gnaw granite science
Oleg helps children gnaw granite science
But kids are not so many years: 7, 9, 11 and 13. About the most the older, already grown-up daughter, I generally keep quiet, she is like a right hand mothers and the main assistant. Such diligence and awareness in children And I have never watched a young girl anywhere! Of course, it happens that these kids are dabbling and not the first time fulfill the requests of parents, but they feel their responsibility and things do. It’s amazing how a child can be embodied right away and such an adult mindfulness and childish naivety!
Plain Russian-Turkish dinner in a pleasant circle
After eating the kids almost literally fell off
The day was long, intense and tedious.
I hope Oleg and I will be able to bring up the same way. their children and in the same way with a positive walk through life, overcoming all difficulties with head held high and extraordinary faith in that everything will be fine, everything will work out!
Village in Absheron district
Apsheronsk and surroundings
Funny names in Apsheronsk
Apsheronsk and surroundings
Oleg:
From myself I would like to add a little on another topic, outside of our trip around Russia – about the attitude to life of this family.
When there were persecutions in Turkmenistan on Turks having Russian wives, the whole family had to go to Afghanistan, and work there contract offered (to make your woodworking shop), and visas could not do otherwise. In Afghanistan after a while some people came with machine guns and carried out the entire workshop, leaving our friends without means of livelihood. After 6 years, interrupting random earnings, which barely enough to educate children and accommodation, having resolved visa issues, they managed to leave Afghanistan to Turkey. But even there life was not sweet, difficulties with papers and relatives who do not understand the relationship of the Turk with the Russian, enough.
I asked how how you managed to not only survive but also move to a less settled place in Russia, and with a smile about tell all this? Belief in God was the answer. No, it is not about some kind of religion, some clever books and so on. It’s about faith in that everything will be fine, the belief that a person can cope with all the trials that stand in his way, the belief that everything is not just and for some reason you need it personally. Otherwise, how explain that so much has been overcome? Coincidence? But did coincidences have been around for decades in a row — Is it possible to explain the fact that people who are unemployed are nowhere officially (they are under 60 years old), feed, raise their five children, and at the same time work and money go themselves to their hands. How to explain the facts that they found free home in Russia, and before that for very modest money lived in Turkey already on the Black Sea. You can list further stories about “luck” above the roof.
Surely, someone will not quite understand this position, because that in our material world money often rules the world and deeds of people. But the one who once knew completely different values, is unlikely to then be able to live differently. Personally for me, an example these people is very revealing. No matter what, they live, though simply and with difficulty, but they are happier many wealthy people. Communication and familiarity with them made me rethink some life goals and priorities, for which they thank you so much.
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